If you’ve never seen The Nativity Story (2006), I recommend it because of the way it portrays Joseph’s importance to the story. In many popular Christmas narratives, Joseph is often overshadowed by Mary, shepherds, kings, and wise men; however, Joseph played a huge role in the unfolding of God’s plan. This son of David was chosen to be the stepdad of God’s son for a reason.

As I think about the stress of the season, the present situation of our society, and the ongoing crisis we face daily, there are some great lessons we can learn from this humble carpenter from Nazareth. I urge you to go back through the narrative and pay close attention to his role and let his example inspire and challenge you.

1. God was his priority.

One of the first things you read about Joseph was that he was a “just man,” that is, a righteous man. The Bible uses this word to describe one who is rightly related to God. When confronted with the pain and disappointment he experienced when Mary was “found to be with child,” it was his faith in God that kept him going. As far as he knew, the marriage was over before it started, yet his faith never wavered. In the tough times, and amid all the stress of the holidays, the strength of our faith is revealed. Is your relationship with Christ an anchor that keeps you from drifting into the fear and frustration that engulfs so many during the season?

2. Holiness was his principle.

Joseph was “resolved to divorce Mary quietly.” To him, holiness was more important than happiness. And even though he must have loved Mary, he would not wed an unfaithful or immoral woman. He would not lie and claim the child as his own. Driven by character and moral principle, he determined to do what was right, no matter the cost.

This kind of resolve and courage is often missing in today’s world. Joseph presents to us an example of doing the right thing even when it comes with personal loss. His story challenges us to be men of conviction who will not compromise what is right even when it means disappointment and heartache.

3. Mercy was his preference.

Joseph had two options. He could bring a formal charge of infidelity against Mary, or he could give her a “bill of divorce” in accordance with Deuteronomy 24:1. As far as he knew, Mary had betrayed him and broken their marriage covenant. Her guilt would heap shame and disgrace upon her and her family, but Joseph did not want that and instead arranged to divorce her out of the public eye. I think one of the reasons the Lord chose Joseph was that his conviction was tempered with compassion.

In spite of his hurt, Joseph chose to be merciful. He reminds us that we who have received grace must be careful to extend it to others. Because of his unwavering faith in God, his personal holiness, and his gracious disposition, the Lord used him in a powerful way. Joseph got Mary down to Bethlehem, led his family out of harm’s way to Egypt, and then brought them safely back to Nazareth, according to God’s plan.

Have you ever wondered why God didn’t give Joseph a “head’s up” before his heart was broken? All he needed was information, but the Lord didn’t give it to him until he needed it. On four different occasions God spoke to him in a dream and told him everything he needed to know. I think God was teaching him to walk by faith. He’s doing the same thing in your life.