a word from the pastor

The Number One Predictor of Divorce

MarketWatch, a website that provides financial information for investors, reported that the number one predictor of divorce is arguing with your spouse over finances. This is especially true if the tension builds early in the marriage. Writing for MarketWatch, Catey Hill noted that couples fight ...
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A Time to Defer

Martin Luther, the great reformer, was a bull-in-a-China-shop type of guy. His enemies referred to him as the “fox arisen seeking to destroy the vineyard,” and “the wild boar of the forest.” A man of great courage and conviction, Luther refused to compromise his conscience even at the cost of...
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Don’t be “that guy”

Faith Family Church is hosting a marriage seminar this weekend, and I’m wondering if the couples who need it the most won’t be there. In over 40 years of ministry, I’ve observed that men who enjoy healthy and happy marriages are more likely to attend marriage seminars than those who don’t. So, al...
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Let’s Talk About the Bedroom

The first time I read about Intimacy Anorexia (IA), I was completely unaware of how prevalent it is across America, and apparently, it’s not uncommon even among Christians. IA is the result of a spouse deliberately withholding sexual intimacy from the other spouse. While such an aberration of bib...
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Forgiving Your Wife

I tell couples in pre-marital counseling that one of the keys to successful marriage is maintaining a forgiving spirit. Nobody’s perfect, and sadly, we often hurt the person we love the most. It may not be intentional, but it is inevitable when two people live together. While I recently wrote...
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No Marriage Is Hopeless

When I shared last week four surefire ways a husband can carelessly destroy his marriage over time, I promised that there was a happy ending to the story. If you missed it, read the first part here, but in a nutshell, those four things are: 1. Failing to show respect. 2. Failing to communicate....
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Four Surefire Ways Husbands Fail at Marriage

I have had the unfortunate experience of seeing too many marriages fail miserably and irreparably. It’s very sad to see husband-and-wife relationships begin with so much happiness and promise yet end in bitterness and resentment. There’s one case in particular that I remember very well. A long...
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Honoring Your Wife

Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7 Marriage is a learning experience where you discover things about your sp...
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The Battle for Biblical Manhood

Psychotherapy is huge business in the United States with estimates as high as 50 million Americans receiving some form of mental health treatment. That statistic should produce great concern among Christians considering the American Psychological Association’s (APA) recent guidelines for how psyc...
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“I’m Not a Fixer-Upper!”

“Why are women so determined to fix a guy when they start dating someone?” This was the question an unnamed male wrote to Allana Pratt, “intimacy expert” for The Good Men Project website. He went on to defensively declare that he was “content with who I am” and not a “fixer-upper.” Such an attitu...
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