“Their father gave them great gifts of silver, gold, and valuable possessions, together with fortified cities in Judah, but he gave the kingdom to Jehoram, because he was the firstborn.” 2 Chronicles 21:3

Generally speaking, Jehoshaphat was a good king. He made some bad decisions at times, but overall “he did what was right in the eyes of the LORD.” He had seven sons to whom he bequeathed great material wealth. But to his oldest son, Jehoram, he gave what really mattered, the kingdom.

I think most fathers would like to leave their children, and grandchildren, some kind of material benefit. The Bible says, “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children.” (Proverbs 13:22) But even though many fathers are simply not financially able to leave a physical inheritance, they can certainly leave what really matters, a spiritual inheritance.

Dads, here are four things you should endeavor to leave to your kids as a spiritual inheritance:

1. Unconditional Acceptance

Every child comes into this world uniquely designed by God and created for His glory, but oftentimes, fathers create their own expectations of what they want their sons or daughters to be. If that child’s physical appearance or their temperamental bent doesn’t align with those expectations, a father may unconsciously communicate disappointment. For example, if your son shows no interest in things that interest you, forcing him against his natural bent may lead him to think your love is conditional. Make sure he knows that your love for him comes with no strings attached.

2. Undaunted Protection

In the early nineties, Steve Farrar published his best-selling book, “Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family.” Taken from a military exercise of leading men through enemy territory, the book teaches fathers how to keep their kids safe from the ever-present dangers that come from walking through this world. The book was revised and updated in 2022, and I highly recommend it. Farrar writes about the importance of fathers living a consistent Christian life, giving godly advice to your kids, and how to exercise loving discipline.

3. Unselfish Encouragement

One of my favorite places in Washington, D.C. is the National Gallery of Art. At each visit, I make sure to view the works of one of my favorite artists, Benjamin West. And I always reflect on the story of how he became a painter. As a young boy, baby-sitting his sister Sally, he found some colored inks and decided to paint her portrait. When his mom returned she found the table stained with ink and running onto the floor. Instead of railing against little Ben she picked up his messy work and exclaimed, “Why, it’s Sally!” She then bent down and kissed her son and West would later say, “My mother’s kiss made me a painter.”

In addition to speaking words of affirmation, spending quality time and building memories have great power in shaping a healthy self-esteem in your child. Maintaining a strong marriage is also one of the most encouraging things you can do for your kids.

4. Unceasing Prayer

There is no greater investment you can make in the life of your child than consistent, fervent prayer. My dad wasn’t perfect, but one thing I do remember is seeing him regularly on his knees praying for others. Prayer recognizes our dependence on God to be the fathers our children need. Do you love your children? Then cease not to pray for them and with them. Let them hear you plead with God on their behalf. Pray for their salvation, their sanctification, their protection, and the Lord’s direction in their lives.

You may not be able to leave great wealth to your children, but you surely can leave a spiritual inheritance which is far greater.